Tackling relationship war

Everyone at some time in their lives desire to experience a close and lasting bond with their love partner. However, sometimes we can find it hard get along with each other.  This leaves us feeling hurt, angry, and confused. And as a result we argue and fight: often to the point that we can almost kill each other. Some of the reasons may be as follows:

 

Being dishonest

Because they fear they will not get what they want and need, many people lie about what they are willing or capable of offering to their partner. You and/or your partner may make promises that you can’t or won’t keep in order to receive the benefits of having the relationship. Often your actions are inconsistent with which you claimed.

 

Not knowing what you want or need

You lying piece of trash is what we often want to yell at our partner or I can’t believe this fool did this to me is what we find ourselves saying to our friends after it seems our lover has betrayed us once again. But the case may be that your partner thought they wanted or needed certain things from you and has realized that they don’t want or need them at all. For example, your mate may have told you when you first met that he likes a woman that will stay at home and raise his children. To the contrary, what he really wants or need is a woman who enjoys hanging out. Also sometimes we want or need things from our partners that are unhealthy for us and we do not feel good once we get these things from them.

 

Your partner has changed

Perhaps you and your mate enjoyed spending quiet nights in watching old comedies. But lately he has been spending more and more time away from the house. This doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner has a new lover. It could mean that they no longer enjoy the same activities that you do. In an effort to protect your feelings, they may not want to tell you this. They may fear the relationship is over because of this.

 

You may have too many unresolved issues

Many people are unable to get past the hurt they endured as a result of their upbringing or one or more bad relationship experience. And not only is it impossible, but it is also unfair for someone to ask their mate to go through it with them. When these people get past one bad experience or another, they are often unaware of why the situation existed or how they contributed to it. More than likely, they have a bad behavior problem or personality flaw stemming from some unconscious thoughts that they may be thinking.