They may be afraid you will be bad company
There’s a possibility that your potential date is in a bad
mood and needs someone to make them feel better. Talking about your past
relationships, good or bad, could make them feel even worse. They would rather
spend their time and money on someone who is lively and bubbly.
They may think you are still in love with someone
Out of sight: out of mind is an old saying that is still
proven to be the truth. If you are still mentioning your ex, your potential
date might think you recently broke up with someone, and you will get back with
them in the near future.
They may think you are lying about your age
Most daters alike (regardless of whether or not they are
looking for along-term relationship or someone to hang out with) have learned
not to give away too much information about their past relationships. Many
people have made the mistake of trying to bond with a new lover by doing such a
thing only to have them use the knowledge to hurt them in the future. Also,
mature adults are supposed to be capable of putting their emotional state to
the side.
They could know your ex
If your potential date suddenly grows quiet or if their
demeanor changes after you mention someone in which you have had a relationship,
it could be that they know each other. And, they could be too close of friends
for you two to hang out. Or your ex could have a bad reputation, and your
potential date may have begun judging you for choosing them as your mate.
They may think you are manipulative
Complaining about what your ex didn’t do or how bad they
treated you or bragging about how good of a mate your ex was will not help you
get anything from your potential date other than what they were willing to give
to you. It will only cause you to appear to be someone who doesn’t know how to
ask for what they want. It is unfair for them to have to take their place.
You seem to be beyond approach
Telling your potential date that you are always falling out
with your friends and complaining about how bad you have been treated by them
will not make you appear enduring. You seem to be someone who doesn’t take responsibilities
for their actions and someone who doesn’t know themselves very well.
