Saturday, January 25, 2014

Why Can't I Just Say It!





Many people, without knowing the reasons, find it hard to take care of themselves. When the time comes for them to speak up, for some reason or another they just can't find the strength or courage to do so. As a result, we miss out on opportunities to grow, succeed, and get what you want and need. This article gives you tips that will help you say something.


Feelings of worthlessness

When you don’t value yourself, you are prone to allowing people to mistreat or take advantage of you without taking up for yourself. You sit or stand back and watch as other people make major decisions about your time and your life. Once you begin to think more highly of yourself, your feelings about who you are will begin to change, also. At this point, you will become outraged about any injustices against yourself. And, you will become less able to tolerate it.

Hurt feelings

When you think highly of other people, their opinions of who you are matters. When these people mention your flaws or say something that reminds you of how you really feel about yourself, you can feel your pain to the extent that you can’t defend yourself. Usually you have an exaggerated sense of who you are to begin with and have begun using drugs, alcohol, or other people to relieve your low sense of self.

You’re guilty of the same thing

Adults are expected to set an example for their children. You may try to hide certain things from them. For example, you may be experimenting with drugs, you may have become promiscuous, or you may have begun over shopping. Of course, you don’t want your children to continue the same destructive behavior. But, to our dismay, we find out that they have begun doing the same things. Once you admit that you are causing yourself harm and that you need to stop the negative behavior will you begin to be able to have a discussion.

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