How talk about your past relationships can ruin your date

They may be afraid you will be bad company

There’s a possibility that your potential date is in a bad mood and needs someone to make them feel better. Talking about your past relationships, good or bad, could make them feel even worse. They would rather spend their time and money on someone who is lively and bubbly.

They may think you are still in love with someone

Out of sight: out of mind is an old saying that is still proven to be the truth. If you are still mentioning your ex, your potential date might think you recently broke up with someone, and you will get back with them in the near future.

They may think you are lying about your age

Most daters alike (regardless of whether or not they are looking for along-term relationship or someone to hang out with) have learned not to give away too much information about their past relationships. Many people have made the mistake of trying to bond with a new lover by doing such a thing only to have them use the knowledge to hurt them in the future. Also, mature adults are supposed to be capable of putting their emotional state to the side.

They could know your ex

If your potential date suddenly grows quiet or if their demeanor changes after you mention someone in which you have had a relationship, it could be that they know each other. And, they could be too close of friends for you two to hang out. Or your ex could have a bad reputation, and your potential date may have begun judging you for choosing them as your mate.

They may think you are manipulative

Complaining about what your ex didn’t do or how bad they treated you or bragging about how good of a mate your ex was will not help you get anything from your potential date other than what they were willing to give to you. It will only cause you to appear to be someone who doesn’t know how to ask for what they want. It is unfair for them to have to take their place.

You seem to be beyond approach

Telling your potential date that you are always falling out with your friends and complaining about how bad you have been treated by them will not make you appear enduring. You seem to be someone who doesn’t take responsibilities for their actions and someone who doesn’t know themselves very well.