Self-discovery
You may need this time to find out who you are and the
direction in which your life may be heading. Sometimes we meet people whose
only purpose in our lives is to help us find out certain things about our
personality. Or they may present a situation or problem that we haven’t dealt with
so that we may do so. Take care of yourself during this time. If you don’t like
the person that you are or where you are in your life, change your behavior. Pay
attention to the negative thoughts that you have been having that may have
helped you get to this point. It can be a tedious and painful task. However, the
benefits are worth your while. When you
know who you are and what you want, you are less likely to settle for much
less.
You are boring
Our fear of being alone can cause us to hang out with people
in which we have nothing in common. You may not share the same opinions,
hobbies, or lifestyle. But we continue to hold on. It can be your girlfriend or
your boyfriend--- but after a while it becomes painfully obvious that you are
not meant to be around each other. The
end of the relationship is inevitable. Good places to make new friends are
places where you enjoy hanging out.
You never pay your
way
This one may not be as obvious as it should be. But, if you
never have any money to pay your own way when you and your crew go to the nite
club, grab a bite to eat, or go shopping at the mall it’s only a matter of time
before they cut you loose. You become a burden instead of a delightful
companion. And, it is unfair for them to have to worry about your finances. You
become a user regardless of whether or not it is intentional. No one wants to
be taken advantage of.
Pursing people who
are unavailable
People who are unavailable can’t be relied on to
be there when you need them. They could be missing physically or emotionally,
but the fact still remains that you need someone. If the one you are pursuing
is already involved in a relationship, there is a very good chance that they
will not leave their primary relationship. And, if they do, they may be too
upset about the breakup to stick around. It is impossible for you to get what
the other woman is getting from him. Often when she demands respect, you will
have to pretend you didn’t know there is a respect issue. When she demands real
intimacy, you may have to settle for a quickie. If you see him on the holidays,
he may be too upset about leaving his family to fully enjoy your company or you
his. At some point you will have to decide you deserve better and walk away
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