Acknowledge the ones
that are responsible for putting the event together.
Just because you are
related to them and know them very well doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give
them their due respect. Show your appreciation for all the effort they put
forth in order for you to have a good time.
Know the purpose of
the family gathering
Did you come together to celebrate the holidays? If so, then
deck the halls to be jolly or get the champagne flowing, etc. Or maybe you came
together to celebrate a relative getting a good job or a good promotion. Either
way it is a joyous occasion and should be treated as such.
Discuss any issues
that you have been having with other family members in advance
Unless you are getting together for a knockout bash, work
out your problems in advance. If you can’t---agree to get along for the sake of
the other family members.
Leave your hang ups
at the door
Right along with your coat, you should check your emotions at
the door. This is not the time to grieve over what you feel your parents didn’t
give you as a child. Nor is it the time to discuss deep family secrets.
Monitor your thoughts
Thoughts do travel. Thinking about how nasty your aunt’s potato
salad tastes or how you wish your brother-in-law wouldn’t wear that ugly shirt again
will definitely put a damper on the festivities.
Prep your guests
before showing up
You may have told your mate or friends about all
the evil things you perceive your relatives have done against you or said about
you. And because they like you at least, they may want to defend you or get
revenge on your behalf. Let them know that this is not going
to be the appropriate setting for such a thing and that they should be on their
best behavior as well.
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