How talk about your past relationships can ruin your date

They may be afraid you will be bad company

There’s a possibility that your potential date is in a bad mood and needs someone to make them feel better. Talking about your past relationships, good or bad, could make them feel even worse. They would rather spend their time and money on someone who is lively and bubbly.

They may think you are still in love with someone

Out of sight: out of mind is an old saying that is still proven to be the truth. If you are still mentioning your ex, your potential date might think you recently broke up with someone, and you will get back with them in the near future.

They may think you are lying about your age

Most daters alike (regardless of whether or not they are looking for along-term relationship or someone to hang out with) have learned not to give away too much information about their past relationships. Many people have made the mistake of trying to bond with a new lover by doing such a thing only to have them use the knowledge to hurt them in the future. Also, mature adults are supposed to be capable of putting their emotional state to the side.

They could know your ex

If your potential date suddenly grows quiet or if their demeanor changes after you mention someone in which you have had a relationship, it could be that they know each other. And, they could be too close of friends for you two to hang out. Or your ex could have a bad reputation, and your potential date may have begun judging you for choosing them as your mate.

They may think you are manipulative

Complaining about what your ex didn’t do or how bad they treated you or bragging about how good of a mate your ex was will not help you get anything from your potential date other than what they were willing to give to you. It will only cause you to appear to be someone who doesn’t know how to ask for what they want. It is unfair for them to have to take their place.

You seem to be beyond approach

Telling your potential date that you are always falling out with your friends and complaining about how bad you have been treated by them will not make you appear enduring. You seem to be someone who doesn’t take responsibilities for their actions and someone who doesn’t know themselves very well.

The Benefits of a Live in Lover

He can lift and move heavy furniture and appliances

He can make repairs

He can help discipline the children

He can help you with your wardrobe

He can help you stay in shape

He can keepaway unwanted company

He can handle annoying telephone calls

How to Get Him to Fall in Love With You On Your First Date

When two people are attracted to each other, the right mood and elements can create the tone for love. So if you're interested in seeing a lot more of your date, the following will help you do just that.

Wear something sexy, provocative, and classy.

Men enjoy using their imaginations.

Open your ears

Men enjoy talking about themselves. So listen intentavley as he talks about his job, kids, family, and etc. Be sensitive towards his problems even though you barely know each other.

Make sure seductive music plays in the background

This definitely creates an atmosphere inwhich love can blossom

Don't be jealous

Avoid getting upset when he notices other good-looking woman or when he's nice to them. His mom may have put him up to it.

Play with him

Bat your eye lashes, cross your legs, or touch him on the back. Do things that let's him know you want him.

Relax

This let's him know that you are not uptight and know how to have a good time.

Talk about the activities and characteristics that you have in common

He'll feel as if he has met a buddy as well as a new girlfriend.

Spring cleaning---Get rid of it once and for all!

Everyone has some housekeeping to do. You know the routine throw this away, donate this, scrub that away. But, sometimes we have a hard time getting rid of things such as left over love, anger, depression and the like, and bad habits. We may think that we have, but later notice it's funk still hanging around. Here's how to let go for real and for good.

Pain from a broken heart

Your loved one has left you behind and it has become obvious that they are not interested in getting back with you. It can be hard to let go because of the emotional and sometimes financial investment that you have made within the relationship. But holding on to hope that you will reconciliate can only serve to keep you in pain. Begin to feel better by accepting the fact that your relationshipis over. You can do this by taking care of yourself, getting your needsmet by other people, and thinking about the qualities you would like your future mate to have. Getout ofthe house and start meeting new people right away!

Lethargy

There are many reasonswhy you are feeling down and in the dumps. Lack of exercise, poor diet, and negative thinking are all reasons why you may be finding it hard to get out of the bed and get your day going. Perhaps you have people in your life who are draining your energy by demanding too much mentally, physically, or financially. Give their burdens back to them by saying no. Replenish your energy by eating fresh fruits and vegetables, good carbohydrates, and drinking water.

Mental distress

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Instead of taking responsibility froour actions, we choose to blame other people strictly for what has happened to us or what didn't go down. We can't admit the truth about onething or another and find ourselves constantly building ahouse of lies that we will eventually have to dig our way from underneath. We choose to believethe negative things that people say about us and live our lives accordingly---never pursuing the things that we want and deserve. You don't have to become a prisonerof your own thoughts.Break free and stop torturing yourself by thinking healthy thoughts and behaving accordingly.

Hatred

We dislike in other people sometimes the same qualities weareguilty of having. Everybody is human. We are all here to learn andgrow---like it or not. And we all make mistakes. We have to learn to be patient with each other and more understanding. So the next time someone pisses you off or makesyou want to scream, do what Whitley from the popular show It's a different world would do---relax, relate, andrelease.

12 things people do that keep them broke

 


The economy has left many people depressed and confused about what to do next. However, there are many things that some people do that prevent them from being able to  make and keep money.

Spending money without budgeting

Not saving money for hard times

Buying inexpensive items just to save money

Neglecting to network

Allowing other people to borrow money without paying it back

Constantly focusing on petty matters

Being upset about paying for the things that you need

Hanging with people who have nothing to offer

Appearing to be broke

The inability to sell yourself

Lack of money making ideas

Not being able to prove yourself

Abusing drugs and alcohol

How to create a lasting bond with your man

You got a good man. And you are interested in keeping him around for a while. Because the fact that you two like each other and really want to be together isn't enough, I have given you some tips that will help you to grow together as a couple.



Let him know that you like the opposite sex

Avoid making derogatory statements about men or alluding that you would like to be with a woman.

Show interest in his life

Don't just come around or call when you want or need something. Talk to your man just for the heck of it. Ask him about his day, his family, his job, and etc.

Keep things hopping in the bedroom

Men not only call woman who satisfy them in bed, but it also helps them to feel good about being around you.

Make him do right by you

Men can better enjoy the company of women who demand love and respect because he is not overwhelmed with feelings of guilt and shame about how he is treating you. It creates the right atmosphere for the relationship to grow.

Make sure he contributes appropriately to the household

A man takes his home and family more seriously if he is expected to split the bills in half, be concerned about your well being, and spend quality time as a family unit.

Let him know he is part of the family

Invite him to family gatherings and introduce him to your friends. Let him know what is going on as far as your clan is concerned. As him for his opinions about discipling the kids, decorating the home, meal planning, and spending money.

Introduce him to your children

Instead of only telling him their names and ages, talk to him about their personality, their likes and dislikes.

10 Things You Shouldn't Tell Your Woman

During the course of a heated argument, we sometimes say things that we don't really mean. However, men are more likely than women to say something that will really hurt. Infact, it can hurt so much that his woman will not be able to forgive him. Find out what they are and what the woman might be thinking.

If I get some money, I will make sure you are set before I leave.

This is fine if you are on the verge of breaking up, but not if you have just gotten involved.

I don't love you anymore.

This is akin to a knife through the heart.

I don't like you.

Complete and total rejection.

You're not pretty enough

Cupid come through please.

You're not sexy enough.

What happened to real love?

I want to have sex with other women.

Am I good enough or what.

Get an abortion.

You heartless bastard!

I had sex with your best friend.

Traitor.

You're stupid.

I should go back to kindergarten and you should beat me there.

You're a slut.

Who taught me how to be one?