Spring cleaning---Get rid of it once and for all!

Everyone has some housekeeping to do. You know the routine throw this away, donate this, scrub that away. But, sometimes we have a hard time getting rid of things such as left over love, anger, depression and the like, and bad habits. We may think that we have, but later notice it's funk still hanging around. Here's how to let go for real and for good.

Pain from a broken heart

Your loved one has left you behind and it has become obvious that they are not interested in getting back with you. It can be hard to let go because of the emotional and sometimes financial investment that you have made within the relationship. But holding on to hope that you will reconciliate can only serve to keep you in pain. Begin to feel better by accepting the fact that your relationshipis over. You can do this by taking care of yourself, getting your needsmet by other people, and thinking about the qualities you would like your future mate to have. Getout ofthe house and start meeting new people right away!

Lethargy

There are many reasonswhy you are feeling down and in the dumps. Lack of exercise, poor diet, and negative thinking are all reasons why you may be finding it hard to get out of the bed and get your day going. Perhaps you have people in your life who are draining your energy by demanding too much mentally, physically, or financially. Give their burdens back to them by saying no. Replenish your energy by eating fresh fruits and vegetables, good carbohydrates, and drinking water.

Mental distress

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Instead of taking responsibility froour actions, we choose to blame other people strictly for what has happened to us or what didn't go down. We can't admit the truth about onething or another and find ourselves constantly building ahouse of lies that we will eventually have to dig our way from underneath. We choose to believethe negative things that people say about us and live our lives accordingly---never pursuing the things that we want and deserve. You don't have to become a prisonerof your own thoughts.Break free and stop torturing yourself by thinking healthy thoughts and behaving accordingly.

Hatred

We dislike in other people sometimes the same qualities weareguilty of having. Everybody is human. We are all here to learn andgrow---like it or not. And we all make mistakes. We have to learn to be patient with each other and more understanding. So the next time someone pisses you off or makesyou want to scream, do what Whitley from the popular show It's a different world would do---relax, relate, andrelease.

12 things people do that keep them broke

 


The economy has left many people depressed and confused about what to do next. However, there are many things that some people do that prevent them from being able to  make and keep money.

Spending money without budgeting

Not saving money for hard times

Buying inexpensive items just to save money

Neglecting to network

Allowing other people to borrow money without paying it back

Constantly focusing on petty matters

Being upset about paying for the things that you need

Hanging with people who have nothing to offer

Appearing to be broke

The inability to sell yourself

Lack of money making ideas

Not being able to prove yourself

Abusing drugs and alcohol

How to create a lasting bond with your man

You got a good man. And you are interested in keeping him around for a while. Because the fact that you two like each other and really want to be together isn't enough, I have given you some tips that will help you to grow together as a couple.



Let him know that you like the opposite sex

Avoid making derogatory statements about men or alluding that you would like to be with a woman.

Show interest in his life

Don't just come around or call when you want or need something. Talk to your man just for the heck of it. Ask him about his day, his family, his job, and etc.

Keep things hopping in the bedroom

Men not only call woman who satisfy them in bed, but it also helps them to feel good about being around you.

Make him do right by you

Men can better enjoy the company of women who demand love and respect because he is not overwhelmed with feelings of guilt and shame about how he is treating you. It creates the right atmosphere for the relationship to grow.

Make sure he contributes appropriately to the household

A man takes his home and family more seriously if he is expected to split the bills in half, be concerned about your well being, and spend quality time as a family unit.

Let him know he is part of the family

Invite him to family gatherings and introduce him to your friends. Let him know what is going on as far as your clan is concerned. As him for his opinions about discipling the kids, decorating the home, meal planning, and spending money.

Introduce him to your children

Instead of only telling him their names and ages, talk to him about their personality, their likes and dislikes.

10 Things You Shouldn't Tell Your Woman

During the course of a heated argument, we sometimes say things that we don't really mean. However, men are more likely than women to say something that will really hurt. Infact, it can hurt so much that his woman will not be able to forgive him. Find out what they are and what the woman might be thinking.

If I get some money, I will make sure you are set before I leave.

This is fine if you are on the verge of breaking up, but not if you have just gotten involved.

I don't love you anymore.

This is akin to a knife through the heart.

I don't like you.

Complete and total rejection.

You're not pretty enough

Cupid come through please.

You're not sexy enough.

What happened to real love?

I want to have sex with other women.

Am I good enough or what.

Get an abortion.

You heartless bastard!

I had sex with your best friend.

Traitor.

You're stupid.

I should go back to kindergarten and you should beat me there.

You're a slut.

Who taught me how to be one?

How to Flirt With a Stranger

Smile

Smiling gives others the impression that you are friendly and approachable.

Make eye contact

Looking down, upward, and around the room while you are flirting gives the impression that you are afraid, too shy, or unsure of yourself.

Wait for the go ahead

Before approaching your admired, be sure that they are flirting back and appears to be comfortable with your advances.

Be confident

Don't stand in the background or deliver messages through friends. Make yourself known.

Show your personality

Don't use the same played out lines that your friends have been using or mimic your favorite movie star. Just be yourself. If you are the serious type, cut to the chase and ask for what you want or strike up a conversation about current events. And if you like to laugh and joke, introduce yourself by telling a joke. Got any new rhymes---hence the poetic type. Talk about yourself in a way that is interesting and unique.

Show off your distinguishing attributes

Maybe you have cute dimples, perfect white teeth, or big strong hands. There's nothing wrong with bringing this to the attention of the one you're flirting with. They will remember you for them.

Extend yourself

If you spot your new love interest in a restaurant having a meal,offer to buy them dessert. And, if they are having a drink at the bar, how about offering them a refill on what they are all ready sipping. You may end up having a discussion on the subject. If you notice they are laughing at your jokes, offer to take them to see the latest comedy at the local theatre.

Tips for Making Your Interacial Relationship Work

Relationships can be difficult to maintain. But interacial couples face challenges that same race couples don't. Here are some those issues and how to deal with them below.



Focus on your goals and common interests.

The fact that you don't share the same complexion, hair texture, or vocal cords is not what is important in your relationship. However, what does matter is whether or not you share some of the same hobbies and other interests.

Don't be intimidated by other people.

Not every one believes in interacial dating. But if you like each other and want to be together, you will ignore other people's comments and negative gestures. Hang out with and get to know other interacial couples.


Get to know your mate's culture.

You should enjoy learning new things about your mate such as who their ancestors are, their way of living, their way of doing things, and how they prepare their meals. One way to do this is by meeting and chatting with their family. doing so will help you get to know each other and help determine if you have a future together.

Respect each other's differences.

The things that are not the same is more than likely what attracted to you to each other. Resist picking fun of each other's temperaments and tolerance levels.

10 Reasons Why You Didn't Get a Second Date

Being impolite

Your mom taught you better. Those little things such as holding the door open, allowing your date to be seated before you sit down, and not eating off your date's plate can still get you a long way when you are trying to woo the opposite sex.

Bad Breath

Your date has to atleast be able to sit across from you to be able to get to know you.

Appearing uneducated

Your date can be turned off by you if you don't know what is going on in the world, mispronounce words, or use them out of context.

Being Cheap

Don't order the cheapest thing on the menu. Your date may think you have issues with self worth. Furthermore, do not take your date to the least expensive place in the neighborhood. They will think that you will skimp them in other ways if you are to get involved.

Being overly critical

You may think you are offering helpful suggestions. but the truth is your date dosen't know you well enough for your opionion to mean a whole lot. Also, they may think that they will have to work too hard to get and keep your approval in the future.

Bragging

Constantly talking about yourself will make your date wonder if you are really interested in getting to know them or if you just need someone else to help you feel good about yourself.

Lying

Once your date catches you in a lie, they cannot be sure what else you have lied about and how often you will lie in the fututre.

Constantly leaving the table

Your date will begin to think there is someone else who is more worthy of your time.

Being late

The above still applies.

Lack of common interests

Your date may not think that you don't have enough in common for them to continue to call.